N’chifukwa chiyani Tchalitchi cha Katolika chili ndi tanthauzo locheperapo chotere la ukwati??
Tanthauzo la Mpingo la ukwati linawululidwa ndi Mulungu; choncho, ndi zangwiro ndipo sizingasinthidwe kuti zigwirizane ndi zilakolako za munthu.
Mpingo umateteza ukwati, kapena ukwati woyera mwakhama kwambiri chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti ndi chinthu chopatulika: mgwirizano woikidwa ndi Mulungu pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Malemba amavumbula zauwiri zaukwati: zake ogwirizana chilengedwe (i.e., mgwirizano wa okwatirana) ndi zake wobereka chilengedwe (i.e., kumasuka kwa ana). Mwachitsanzo, mu Genesis ife tikuwona kuti Mulungu anapanga munthu mwamuna ndi mkazi; ndi kuti Iye anawaitana amuna awiri ogwirizana awa kukhala ogwirizana mu lamulo lalikulu la kuberekana. “Chotero Mulungu analenga munthu m’chifanizo chake, m’chifanizo cha Mulungu adamlenga iye; adalenga iwo mwamuna ndi mkazi. Ndipo Mulungu adawadalitsa, ndipo Mulungu adati kwa iwo, ‘Mubalane, muchuluke’” (Genesis 1:27-28). “‘Uyu ndiye fupa la mafupa anga ndi mnofu wa mnofu wanga,’” anafuula motero Adamu ataona Hava koyamba. “Chotero,” Lemba likupitiriza kunena, “Mwamuna adzasiya atate wake ndi amake nadzadziphatika kwa mkazi wake;, ndipo adzakhala thupi limodzi” (Genesis 2:23-24).
Chifukwa chakuti Mulungu anafuna kuti ukwati ukhale chizindikiro cha pangano pakati pa Iye ndi anthu ake, wa mkazi mmodzi, indissoluble union ndiye woyenera. Yesu anabwezeretsa ukwati kuti ukhale wabwino mu utumiki wake. Pamene Afarisi anafunsa ngati kusudzulana kunali kololedwa pamikhalidwe ina iliyonse, Adayankha choncho Mpulumutsi: “Kodi simunawerenge kuti Iye amene adalenga iwo kuyambira pachiyambi adawapanga iwo mwamuna ndi mkazi?, ndipo adati, ‘Pachifukwa ichi mwamuna adzasiya atate wake ndi amake nadzaphatikizana ndi mkazi wake, ndipo awiriwo adzakhala thupi limodzi’? Chotero salinso awiri koma thupi limodzi. Chifukwa chake chimene Mulungu adachimanga pamodzi, munthu asalekanitse” (onani Mateyu 19:4-6 ndi Genesis 1:27; 2:24).
Afarisi anayankha, “Nanga n’chifukwa chiyani Mose analamula munthu kupatsa kalata wa chilekaniro?, ndi kumusiya?” Yehova anayankha: “Chifukwa cha kuuma mtima kwanu Mose anakulolani kusudzula akazi anu, koma kuyambira pachiyambi sikudali chomwecho. Ndipo ine ndinena kwa inu: amene asiya mkazi wake, Kupatula chiwerewere, nakwatira wina, amachita chigololo; ndi iye amene akwatira wosudzulidwa, amachita chigololo” (Mateyu 19:7-9; kutsindika anawonjezera).
“Chisudzulo” chimene Yehova analankhula sichiyenera kusokonezedwa ndi lingaliro lachisudzulo la anthu amakono. Yesu ankanena za kupatukana mwalamulo popanda ufulu wokwatiranso—kulekana kwa okwatirana, koma osati kutha kwa ukwati. Ena, Komanso, atsutsa kuti popatula nthaŵi za “chigololo” Yesu akulola chisudzulo. Mawu achihebri choyambirira apa, ngakhale, ndi anapitiriza, limene mwina limatembenuzidwa molondola kwambiri kuti “dama,” kutanthauza tchimo limene linachitika asanakwatirane, motero ukwatiwo uli wopanda pake. Ambuye, ndiye, sikulola kutha kwa ukwati wovomerezeka, koma akuzindikira kuti mgwirizano ukhoza kukhala wopanda mphamvu chifukwa cha vuto lomwe linabweretsedwapo kuyambira pachiyambi.. Choncho, izi zingagwirizane kwambiri ndi lingaliro la kuthetsedwa, kuposa ndi kusudzulana.
M’ndime yomweyi, Komanso, Yesu amaletsa mosapita m'mbali kukwatiranso, kunena, “Iye amene akwatira wosudzulidwa achita chigololo” (Mateyu 19:9; cf. 5:32). Adateronso, “Choncho chimene Mulungu anachimanga pamodzi, asapatule munthu;” ndi, zokhudza kusudzulana, “kuyambira pachiyambi sizinali chomwecho” (19:6, 8). Mu Uthenga Wabwino wa Marko, Yesu anati, “Aliyense wosiya mkazi wake ndi kukwatira wina, achita naye chigololo; ndipo akasiya mwamuna wake nakwatiwa ndi wina, wachita chigololo” (10:11-12; onaninso Luka 16:18).
Momwemonso, m’kalata yake yoyamba kwa Akorinto (7:10 -11), Paulo Woyera akulemba, “Kwa okwatira ndimapereka ulamuliro, osati ine, koma Ambuye, kuti mkazi asalekane ndi mwamuna wake (koma ngati atero, akhale wosakwatiwa kapena ayanjanitsidwe ndi mwamuna wake)—ndi kuti mwamuna asasiye mkazi wake.” Malinga ndi Paulo, m’kalata yomweyi kwa Akorinto, Ukwati ukhoza kutha kokha ndi imfa (7:39).
Mpingo wakhala ukuwona mu ukwati chizindikiro chakuya ndi ukoma wodabwitsa.
Yesu anayerekezera Kumwamba ndi “phwando laukwati” (Mateyu 22:2 ndi 25:10), ndi chozizwa chake choyamba poyera–wa kusandutsa madzi kukhala vinyo–anachitidwa paphwando laukwati (onani Yohane 2:1).
Paulo anaona ukwati ngati chitsanzo cha Yesu amene anakwatiwa ndi mpingo wake (onani kalata yake yopita kwa Aefeso 5:32).
Zolemba zakale kwambiri zachikhristu kupitilira Lemba nazonso zimateteza kupatulika ndi kusasunthika kwaukwati. Mwachitsanzo, Ignatius Woyera wa ku Antiokeya, kulemba pafupifupi A.D. 107, adatero, “Ndikoyenera kuti amuna ndi akazi amene akufuna kukwatira agwirizane ndi chilolezo cha bishopu, kuti ukwati wawo ukhale wovomerezeka kwa Yehova, ndipo sanalowe chifukwa cha zilakolako. Zonse zichitike ku ulemerero wa Mulungu” (Kalata kwa Polycarp 5:2).
Pafupifupi chaka 150, Justin the Martyr akuyankha pa Mateyu 19:9, analemba, “Molingana ndi Mphunzitsi wathu, monganso anthu ochimwa amene alowa m’banja lachiwiri, ngakhale zili zogwirizana ndi malamulo a anthu, momwemonso ali ochimwa amene ayang’ana mkazi ndi chikhumbo” (Kupepesa Kwambiri 15). Pafupifupi nthawi yomweyo, Athenagoras wa ku Athens analemba, Timakhulupirira kuti mwamuna ayenera kukhala monga momwe amabadwira, kapena akwatire kamodzi kokha. Pakuti ukwati wachiwiri uli chigololo chophimbika” (Pempho kwa Akhristu 33). “Tikwanira bwanji,” analemba motero Tertullian kuchiyambi kwa zaka za zana lachitatu, “kuti anene za chisangalalo cha ukwati umene Mpingo umakonza, chimene nsembeyo (i.e., Ukaristia) kumalimbitsa, pamene dalitso limayikapo chisindikizo, chimene angelo akulalikira, ndi amene ali ndi chivomerezo cha Atate?” (Kwa Mkazi Wanga 2:8:6). Nthawi yomweyo, Woyera Clement waku Alexandria, kutchula chiphunzitso cha Khristu mu Mateyu 5:32, analongosola chigololo kukhala kuloŵa m’banja lachiŵiri pamene mwamuna kapena mkazi wake wakale akadali ndi moyo (Madzi oundana 2:23:145:3)